I often ask how you are feeling, what thoughts or beliefs you are aware of, what physical sensations you are experiencing, and whether or not any associations, images, or memories are coming to mind.

Noticing what is present for you can help you to feel less anxious, calmer, and more grounded in yourself. Over time, this self-awareness can help you to feel more comfortable with yourself and your body, clearer about who you are, and able to make choices that are right for you.

I will explore with you what approach works best for you and your situation. I may give you suggestions for how we can approach an issue, or you might have one already in mind. However it happens, we work the way that feels right to you.

In couples therapy, we talk about the problems the two of you are having, and how you have dealt with them. I will help you to listen to and understand each others' perspectives, and explore strategies to resolve or accept your differences. Often couples spend a lot of time arguing about day-to-day issues without getting to what is really bothering them. I will gently help you to go underneath your problems to get to the deeper level of what is upsetting you, and what you need from each other. Where helpful, I will offer you strategies or tools to use at home.

While online counseling is different than face-to-face therapy, my approach to writing emails is fairly similar. I am very empathic, supportive, practical, and intuitive. I ask lots of questions to help both of us understand your situation better, and I offer lots of feedback, suggestions, and guidance. I tend to be more solution-focused with this method because our work together is limited to the written word. No matter what the method, I am always a strong ally.

For more information about online counseling or e-therapy see my Online Counseling page.