Abuse Survivors: Remembering Your Strengths
by Kali Munro, M.Ed., Psychotherapist, 2002.
Being a survivor of abuse means feeling all kinds of painful
feelings. It gets overwhelming at times, and many survivors
forget how much they've accomplished and how far they've
come. It's easy to get discouraged and feel like nothing is
ever going to get better or that you have not accomplished anything.
But the truth is you have accomplished a lot. Here are some of
the accomplishments that you can be proud of:
- Focusing on your healing when it felt like there'd be
no end or point to feeling so much pain;
- Hanging in there and keeping yourself alive when
living felt unbearable;
- Holding on to hope when you felt lost
and hopeless;
- Reaching out for support when there was no support
for you as a child;
- Calling someone for help when you were scared;
- Speaking your truth when only a few people
or no one would listen;
- Protecting yourself from abusers and getting
yourself safe;
- Never giving up on yourself, even when others did;
- Reaching out a hand to a friend in need when you
were in a lot of pain yourself;
- Accepting an extended hand when you felt like no one
could ever care about you;
- Daring to trust when no one in your life was trustworthy;
- Loving your friends and partner when your childhood
taught you betrayal and hatred;
- Being yourself when you were trained to deny yourself;
- Believing in a better world when you know full well the
suffering human beings are capable of inflicting on others.
It takes great courage and determination to face abuse, to keep
yourself safe, and to heal.
© Kali Munro, 2003
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